Saturday, August 27, 2016

Say the Wrong Thing

In his book, Writing Without Teachers, Peter Elbow talks about how we can find the right words when we write. He says on page 26, "It is simply a fact that most of the time you can't find the right words till you know exactly what you are saying, but that you can't know exactly what you are saying  till you find just the right words. The consequence is that you must start by writing the wrong meanings in the wrong words; but keep writing till you get to the right meanings in the right words. Only at the end will you know what you are saying."

I have found myself badly wanting to write a thing, and feeling like it has to sit so long in my head before I can get it out. And sometimes it does have to sit first; but I wonder if I were more willing to say the wrong thing in the wrong way, if I could get at the right way sooner.

How much harder is it for our kids, who may not have any idea what they want to say to start with? It comes down to free writing. Not only is it free of rules, but it's truly freeing. It frees the ideas that are locked in the minds of our kids, it frees them of fears, it frees them of having to say the right thing!

Every piece of writing can actually start as a freewrite. Or how about just a conversation? When we are in conversation, we may say the wrong thing and then change our minds and correct ourselves. Conversation is so forgiving. We just change what we're saying in the moment. Easy.

So your job is to show your kids that it really is fine to say the wrong thing first in order to get to the right thing. You can do that by modeling it. Do freewriting with your kids and read aloud what you've written. Then make changes to yours, and let them see your thought process. Something like, "That's not really the word I mean here, maybe I should try this word instead." Look up the words in the dictionary to get the full meanings, so you can get it boiled down to the most accurate word choice.

2 comments:

  1. Modelling the process is such an important but often overlooked idea.I remember when my kids were younger reading a picture book about how books were made. It included some drafts from well-known authors -full of crossings out, changes and things that never made the final version. It was a revelation to my kids - I think they thought good writers got everything right the first time!

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  2. Yes, so important! We do a lot of modeling in our family, maybe because my husband needs to see something done and then do it himself to learn it. So that seems to be the default style of teaching our kids. Writing is a difficult area to model, though. There's so much of our thought process to talk through. It helps to have my kids read things I write and ask them how it can be improved or if it makes sense. But I always do this in a genuine way. They're actually helping me work through my changes, so they can see how to do it.

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